2007 Tuono

I've a mate though who doesn't pay **** all. How he does it I'll never know but the house he lives in is only in his new wifes name as well as everything else. He's ****** if they ever divorce as well I suppose but apparently he pays her rent to live in the house etc etc etc. The CSA can't take a thing off him as he's proven to them he has no disposable income. I suppose in this case he doesn't pay the ex wife anything which is wrong in a way but he's playing the system to suit himself.

His new wife is very good with money though and knows what shes doing

Barking Spider said:

They only look at your net income, nothing else at all. If you had zero disposable income it wouldn't matter because they take it from your net income, through your employer before you even get it. The system is ****** up and totally in favour of the mother. If my ex was a multi billionaire, they'd still **** me for 40% of what i earnt, even if I was on minimum wage?

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I do feel for you & others in similar situations. Benefit mentality is crucifying this country & bleeding us all to death.

I would seriously be better off giving up work and going on full benefits. Rent and council tax paid in full, free cash to the point I'd have more disposable income than I do now??! Is only have to pay the ex £5 a week as well.
It's no wonder so many people do, not me though, I'm a grafter and have some dignity. Is rather work 3 jobs and have nothing than be benefit scum and have everything.

"Is rather work 3 jobs and have nothing than be benefit scum and have everything."

Well said !

Benefits are far too easy to be had - one of my neighbours was pensioned off early with a bad back, doesnt stop him jacking up his car n crawlin around on thr floor to mend it. Has a bloody disabled parking permit too...


Grrrrr

Oh oh oh, don't get me started on the benefit cheats! I could go on all day, my sister works for oxford city council and you wouldn't believe the things she tells me.

My sympathies.
I take it your not able to become self employed doing your work?
That would mean you would need to be re-assessed, that can take quite a while.

It was an option but impossible in todays financial climate. Marine engineers are not that sort after.

**** it. I can't sell it. I love it. **** eBay.
I have sold everything I own except my parrots and now my bike and I feels goooood.
Happy days boys and girls, happy days.

Nice one dude; stick hold of it at all costs, as you`ll only want it back straight away.....:thumbup

Mate, I`ve been through (and still going through) all the CSA thing, and you really need to ask for a re-assessment by the sounds of it.

They can`t make you homeless just to pay it, but you need to be able to show, properly, that you either have a mortgage, or are paying rent on a place.....

Lots of lads get assessed incorrectly the first time around, but don`t stand for it. Get them to re-assess, and explain that you have very little living expenses left..........gotta be worth a try bud !

Thankfully, Nicola Blackwood who is the mp for my area is fighting for me as well as fathers for justice so I'm not laying down and taking it. Even if they get their 40% I'm feckin keeping my Tuono, the Mrs is all on board so we'll get through.
MOT tomorrow, long blast at the weekend and my insurance quote is now only £170, heaven.
Long live the T, long live the me.

Keep your chin up BS - never let the *******s grind you down! :thumbup:thumbup

Barking Spider said:

Thankfully, Nicola Blackwood who is the mp for my area is fighting for me as well as fathers for justice so I'm not laying down and taking it. Even if they get their 40% I'm feckin keeping my Tuono, the Mrs is all on board so we'll get through.
MOT tomorrow, long blast at the weekend and my insurance quote is now only £170, heaven.
Long live the T, long live the me.

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Thats the attitude.

Chin up, head down, throttle on.

Great to hear, a man's gotta have his toy(s) - all work and no play.. etc.

Glad to hear you're keeping it. Te csa sucks. I can understand why they're about but sometimes they just shaft people which isn't on

I thought the CSA was for ensuring the child fathered was backed up financially by the father.

If you dip your wick and father a child then you should be prepared to pay for it.

If you must know, my son is 6 I raised him pretty much raised on my own for the first year while supporting my girlfriend because she had post natal depression. After a while the stressed caused us to split and she attempted suicide. I tried to take my boy with me when I moved back to oxford from Manchester but she had obtained a residency order behind my back and I had to leave without him. Since then I have paid her cash regularly and supported her without question. Every bit of furniture in her house and she car she drives was paid for by me.
What I only found very recently was back in 2006 she contacted csa and began the process, giving them my address, it wasn't my address, it was her friends so now they finally caught up with me and are trying to get 5 years worth of back pay, 40% of my wages. I am fighting with the help of Nicola Blackwood, my local mp as the csa are refusing to take into account what I have already paid.

So before you jump on your high horse and make out I am a tight fisted, absent father trying to avoided paying my way, get some back ground information first. I have spent thousands supporting my son and thousands, paying court fees for access, unfortunately the system is massively bias towards the mothers and no matter how many court orders she breaks nothing gets done and I have to pay again and go back to court. I travel hundreds and hundreds of miles just to see him for an hour sometimes. I am committed and I do far more than most.
Rant over.

I am not on a High Horse as you put it but children live longer than 1 year so it is justified to go seeking the back pay.

It is irrelevant what mother and father do as long as the child is supported.
I know they tend to favourthe mother which IS wrong but to stop paying something is asking for trouble when you get caught.

My daughter has kids and the father pays nothing and never has (not working) ,she struggles to make ends meet but just about manages.
I have told her to have NOTHING what so ever to do with him .

No you've missed the point, I have ALWAYS paid, from the day he was born up until 3 weeks ago when the csa contacted me. She has had money every week since his birth. I have even given her extra in the last few years to pay for furniture and a car.
What I'm saying is the csa won't accept that I have paid well over what I was ever meant to despite receiving proof from me when I sent a box full of receipts. They are claiming as the money never went to them first as my ex ask them to collect, they want back pay. The amount they want is about a 5th of what I've actually paid so in fact, my ex owes me thousands.
I have always paid, even for things I shouldn't have to just to give my boy a good life.

Sounds like you've always done the right thing for your son mate. Hope you get the csa issue sorted.